We’re Friends Right? So Lets Talk About Anxiety

friends 2.jpgANXIETY– Can literally control someone’s life. That is such a sad statement, but guys that is the truth. I am not ashamed to talk about this and say ya.. I have anxiety.

Let me just say anxiety is no JOKE. We need to take care of our mental health just like we take care of skin or our physical health. I think it’s an important topic to talk about and shed some light on. So I wanted to share with you the things I do to calm my anxiety and take back control of my thoughts.

Don’t you think everyone experiences anxiety at some point in their life? Well they do.. Anxiety is highly subjective to each person, obviously worse for some than others. Something that helped me right away is just saying..I need some help- – like I’m at a point that I need some guidance on how to manage my anxiety. It’s never a bad time to ask for help, just asking for help that was a first step….

So here is what I have done over the last few years of my life to help manage my anxiety.

I broke these up into the FOUR basic things I started out doing and I STILL do on a daily basis.

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▴ Take a moment and breath. When I consciously focus on calming thoughts and calming breaths, I can feel my body start to relax. Honestly, there are tons of different breathing exercises for anxiety, so try out several to see what works best for you. What I do is I close my eyes, and start to relax every muscle group from my toes up to my head.  I then take 6 deep breaths through my nose and hold for 5 seconds.

“If you want to conquer the anxiety of life, live in the moment, live in the breath.” — Amit Raz

▴ Adrenal Support- So I’ve talked about the importance of  adrenal support before and I’ll say it again if you have anxiety you need to study up on the connection between the two. I support my adrenals with proper supplementation and I notice a huge difference when I am not on them. Someone like a naturopathic doctor is going to be able to guide best, let me know if you have any questions about this.

Lay off the coffee--This is a very sad truth! I have now limited my caffeine intake to one cup a day and I notice a big difference.

Meditation. I have been trying to incorporate meditation into my life for awhile now. I am trying try train myself to be mindful. Meditation is helping me take unproductive worries and look at them in a totally different way. There are tons of apps out there if you don’t know where to start, I’ve been using headspace and I like it so far.

next FOUR steps I’ve implemented over the last year.

Therapy… I cant tell you how awesome therapy can be. Finding the right person is key, do your research and then pray about it. Guys, listen I personally think there is still such a stigma around therapy, which is so sad. People need to freaking GET OVER IT! Therapy for is a place to learn about yourself and how to handle all feelings. It’s truly Fantastic!

I’ve linked my therapist here in San Diego, talking to her and learning from her has been key!  Just connecting with another human being and having them show you compassion, it’s JUST incredible!! Check out her Instagram and  FANTASTIC podcast!

▴ Have a “person”. Guys–I am all about going to therapy when you need it. If you are NOT at a point where you are ready to go to a therapist then find a FRIEND someone to talk to about how you are feeling!

So many times I just hear people say, “Oh I’m just working through it myself.” That might work for some people but for me my mom couldn’t be my therapist FOREVER (love you mom). I guess the take away is at the end of the day, you NEVER have to worry alone. PLEASE talk to someone when you need to talk.

▴ FILL your CUP with good and positive things. It’s key everyday to Talk, Learn, and Grow by filling your mind with positivity. Recently I was introduced to Susan David who talks about emotional agility, which is eye opening & mind blowing at the same time. Listen to her wisdom over on the podcast, The Robcast.  Other positive Podcasts or books I love and use everyday to fill my cup – – The Alison Show Ep 52 is all about her anxiety journey and WELL everything Brene Brown.


These are a few tips that really have worked for me and helped me handle my day to day anxiety. I’m still working on EVERY DAMN DAY because I’m not perfect and still struggle!

Let me know if you have any questions. AND of course I want to know how you deal with your anxiety. Comment and Share your tips me here or on instagram, I love hearing them!

XO- Whitney

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