How To Survive Life When Your Spouse Travels For Work

How To Survive Life When Your Spouse Travels For Work

I remember the first time my husband had to travel for work and I was left to manage a newborn, myself and all life brings. Being a military spouse my husband travels and deploys a lot, so I have learned some things over the years to help manage life. Here are some tips for you if your partner also travels a lot for work.

stick with your personal routine

It’s key to stick to the routine even if your partner is gone. If you are like me you will probably realize how much you relied on your spouse to do even the littlest things within the routine. Sticking to a your routine keeps things running as smooth as possible. When my husband is gone my 3 year old never misses her nap and bedtime stays the same so when Dad gets back there is no confusion of new expectations.

begin and end day with a conversation

If you can try to catch up with your spouse at the end of the day, do it! We have been lucky with our deployments that we could Facetime every day. Not only is it good for your kids to see mom or dad but it is good for you to build trust and helps you decompress from a busy day. Also, hearing how crazy and hectic their working day has been can help reduce those jealous thoughts that come… “oh I wish I had free time”, ” I want to sleep in a comfy king size bed and not be disturbed”.

Military Families: If you know you won’t be able to chat with your spouse make a good morning and good night video for you kiddos. We did this our last deployment and on the nights we couldn’t chat Blakely would still hear those words ” Daddy, loves you and misses you” which I know in the long run made a difference.

Our Recent Deployment Homecoming

let go of the cooking and eat left overs

Can someone say, “left overs”. When my husband travels for work I am all about the lefts overs. Before he leaves we make a couple dishes that can last a few days, so I don’t have to worry about cooking anything. And if things are going really well we might make pancakes and eggs for dinner and eat them while watching a Disney movie. Basically, I make dinners as easy & healthy possible and try to avoid any fast food. I don’t want my kid to equate dad being gone to us always getting fast food.

don’t stay up past your typical bedtime

For the longest time I would stay up way past my typical bed time when my spouse is traveling. You know just trying to catch up on blogging and binging my favorite tv shows. For some reason it’s so much easier to push bed time and have that extra cocktail when the spouse is away. But I can guarantee the next morning I always wake up regretting staying up those extra few hours. Best tip I can give is get as much sleep as possible.

remember you aren’t alone

Having a spouse that travels can bring feelings of freedom and loneliness, I totally get it. The sad truth is my husband and I probably have spent more time apart than together over our 8 year relationship. But that is life when you have a spouse who’s job requires travel. As someone who had a dad who traveled a lot and now a spouse traveling. Remember these days alone with your kiddos are memories that they will never forget and days that will help you grow as a parent and spouse.

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Guide to Cleanest and Safest Sunscreens in 2019

The Cleanest and Safest Sunscreens Picks for 2019

I’ve been learning more and more through nurse practitioner school about sunscreen, skin, skincare and things you NEED to know about SPF. What do you think is the best anti-aging product available today? Shocker, it is sunscreen. In one study, participants who used sunscreen daily showed NO detectable increase in skin aging after 4.5 years. I mean I think we all know how important sunscreen is but I wanted to share certain brands I recommend and chat about why.


Physical vs Chemical Sunscreen

Physical sunscreen sits on top of the skin and blocks ultraviolet rays from penetrating. Physical sunscreens ( mineral sunscreens) are going to contain zinc oxide and/or titanium dioxide as their active ingredients. This are my favorite type of sunscreen because it’s a physical barrier that doesn’t get absorbed into the blood steam, yet protects you from UVA and UVB rays.

Chemical Sunscreen works by absorbing and converting UV rays into heat before they can cause free radical damage. I am not a fan of chemical sunscreens because I literally don’t like having to put anything with ‘chemicals’ on my skin. You also have to apply chemical sunscreen 15-20 mins before going into the sun allowing it to activate… which is super time consuming.

New study from JAMA shows that after common chemical sunscreen ingredients (avobenzone, oxybenzone, octocrylene, and ecamsule) were applied to 75% of the body for 4 days, blood was collected from each participate for a week. Among the participants they found maximum plasma concentrations systemic of these chemicals over the 7 days. The are levels are high enough that it has now started a government safety investigation. This is is scary and should definitely raise some red flags when you are shopping for sunscreen. SO just remember just because there are bunch of things are packed into a product doesn’t make it beneficial or safe. BUT don’t be freaked out and stop using sunscreen all together we still need to be using it but just the right formula.

The Cleanest and Safest Sunscreens Picks for 2019

Favorite Tip From Beauty By Dr. Kay

My favorite plastic surgeon Dr. Kay Durairaj truly believes that that physical/mineral based sunscreens are better for pigmentation patients (aka dark spots or melasma) because it doesn’t generate as much heat as a chemical sunscreen. She wants you to avoid UV rays hitting the skin, penetrating the skin and then going through a chemical reaction generating heat, which she believes creates/flares pigmentation. She believes using a mineral sunscreen which deflects light and doesn’t even allow for pigmentation to be trigged is best for all pigmentation patients.


Ingredient Profile: Physical Sunscreen

Are the ingredients in our sunscreens truly safe? That has been a question asked for years. Right now, the FDA has only 17 active ingredients approved. Zinc oxide and titanium dioxide are two of those safe and effective ingredients to use. When looking for a sunscreen the goal is to protect against both UVA and UVB rays.

Zinc oxide is your best protector again UV rays and is what you want to be looking for when picking a sunscreen. Zinc oxide is a physical protector because it scatters, reflects, and absorbs UVA & UVB rays. It works as soon as it is applied unlike chemical sunscreens and it’s not absorbed into the skin.

Titanium dioxide is also common in physical sunscreens and blocks ultraviolet-B and short-wave ultraviolet-A rays, however it is not as effective blocking long ultraviolet-A rays. Zinc oxide is the queen of UVA and other ray blocking which makes it super effective at fighting the sun’s rays.


  • UVA rays: penetrate the skin, reaching beyond the thickest layer of skin the dermis. It is this type of UV radiation that can cause aging and wrinkles. Anything with Broad spectrum is protecting you from UVA rays
  • UVB rays: UVB rays burn surface of your skin, because they are shorter rays that only reach the most superficial layers. UVB rays lead to lead to sunburns and eventually can cause skin cancer. The SPF tells you it is protecting you from UVB rays.

Favorite SPF Brands


SPF Formula & Concentration

There is a wide range of concentrations found in sunscreen formulas – from very little to the legal maximum.

Zinc Oxide: 5% minimum; 10-20% is ideal in a sunscreen. It’s really common to see 2-7% concentrations and 25% is the legal maximum in a sunscreen.  You may often see some zinc oxide based sunscreens will give you that super white ghost appearance after applying. That has to do with the nano particle size. Smaller particles like nanoparticles used in a sunscreen will appear less white when applied, and larger non- nano zinc oxide sunscreens will leave you with more of white ghost look. Some are concerned that there might be some health risks using nanoparticles because they could penetrate the skin. However, the USA is very relaxed when it comes to the whole nano- non-nano debate, so there are no regulation and I’m sure we will see more about this in the future.

Titanium Dioxide: 5% minimum; 25% is the legal maximum. It is often used in conjunction with Zinc oxide to help increase the SP factor.

Through all my research I’ve learned that if you have to pick between Zinc Oxide or Titanium Dioxide, you should always choose Zinc Oxide but even better high % of zinc oxide in combination with titanium dioxide to give you that higher SP factor and UVA and UVB protection.

The Cleanest and Safest Sunscreens Picks for 2019- Positively Posie

Positively Posie Sunscreen Tips


  • Sunscreen should be broad-spectrum – protecting against both UVA & UVB rays.
  • Sunscreens can expire making them less effective
  • Sunscreen should be at least SPF 30 – there is not a big difference in of UVB protection between a SPF 30 vs SPF 50+ (SPF 30 protects against 97% of UVB rays, while SPF50 protects against 98% of UVB rays), however the American Academy of Dermatology questions if there is better UVA protection in higher SPFs.
  • Formula matters always look for a high % of zinc oxide in combination with titanium dioxide to give give me the most UV protection with a higher SP factor.
  • Iron oxide and Antioxidants are two ingredients that when added to sunscreens can help reduce the amount of UVA radiation even more.

** please remember these are my thoughts and research, I am not your practitioner so please seek medical advice from your practitioner and ALL sources are linked for your viewing**

5 Health and Wellness Podcasts To Follow

I love podcasts. Podcasts offer an insane amount of information from experts from every field. If you aren’t learning you’re not growing, that’s the saying right. I find health podcasts super helpful, hearing it straight from the mouths of the healthcare professionals. Here are some of my all time favorite podcasts that you should be listening too.

Feel Better Live More

Dr.Chatterjee. Dr Rangan Chatterjee is a a General Practitioner, author who is best known for his BBC TV show ‘Doctor in The House’. I love how informative this podcast and all he practical and useful advice he gives his listeners.

5 Health and Wellness Podcasts To Listen Too

15 – Minute Matrix

I’m obsessed with Andrea Nakayama’s a Functional Nutritionist podcast because it’s only 15 minutes. She also dives into a variety of topics that I don’t see talked about on on podcasts. I would suggest this podcast to any practitioner or health nut, you wont be disappointed with what you learn.

MindBodyGreen podcast

Hosted by the founder of Mind Body Green, Jason Wachob. He is a wealth of knowledge and chats with pioneers in the health and wellness world. It is really fascinating and inspiring to hear people’s stories and wisdom. I loved the Deborah Hanekamp aka Mama Medicine episode and Steven Gundry’s episode.

Holding Space Podcast

You guys know I am a huge fan of therapy and talk about my therapist all the time. Dr. Cassidy Freitas, LMFT is my therapist here in San Diego and she hosts an inspiring, beautiful and calming podcast. Self care is huge in my book and this podcast is such a great resource for self care. It is hard to pick my favorite episodes but Episode 2: defining your values and Episode 3: Mom guilt are MUST listen episodes.

5 Health and Wellness Podcasts To Listen Too

Beauty Bytes with Dr.Kay

By far Dr. Kay is my favorite beauty and wellness podcast. Recently we had the pleasure of interviewing Dr. Kay on This Girl Life podcast and she didn’t disappoint. Dr. Kay is a wealth of knowledge and is all about staying beautiful on the inside as well as outside. Check out our episode with Dr.Kay here

Podcasts I listen to and have already mentioned on the blog

What are you listening to right now? 

Mental Health, Anxiety & EMDR with Janelle Nelson, LMFT

Hey Friends, I know it’s been forever since I have written again. Has my sabbatical caused you some sort of anxiety? I’m so sorry– forgive me but I have been busy starting a podcast, This Girl Life.

THIS GIRL LIFE PODCAST

It has been a dream of mine for awhile now to start a lifestyle podcast with my best friend Kristen of the Everyday Grace. We wanted to connect with women, really all of you on another level. Plus, we love talking way more than we love typing… so a podcast was a perfect fit. You can catch up on latest TGL episodes on itunes, Soundcloud, Googleplay, Spotify.We just released EPISODE 5 with Janelle Nelson, (LMFT) a family, marriage life therapist who specializes in EMDR( Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing). EMDR is a tool used to help combat PTS from trauma, anxiety, even helps people with phobias. EMDR has helped me work through some of my anxiety that I asked Janelle Nelson, LMFT to share about this amazing tool on the blog after her episode on TGL aired.

My Anxiety Struggle

I have talked a lot about my struggle with anxiety with the hope of showing people… we don’t have to “sweep” this topic under the rug. Check out past posts here and here. I have been using EMDR in my therapy sessions with Dr. Cassidy. and OMG EMDR is amazing. I have seen great improvement in my own life since starting my sessions, it really helps peel back all the layers of your anxiety.

On Positively Posie.com I truly want to be a force in breaking the stigma that still surrounds the topic of mental health. One of the first steps in breaking that is to say and believe…

” there is no weakness in asking for help”

In our latest TGL Episode with Janelle Nelson, LMFT , I share how I got a point with my anxiety where I KNEW I needed to talk to someone. It was truly freeing and reduced my anxiety by just take that step and going to first session. I believe there is POWER in being heard and understood by someone else. SO GUYS- I hope this post and podcast episode can be a little piece in helping start a productive conversation about mental health, anxiety and therapy.

The Interview

Whitney: Hey Janelle thanks for coming on Positively Posie and sharing about EMDR. First tell us little bit about you, your practice.

Janelle: Thanks for having me! I’m a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist trained in specific type of therapy called EMDR. I have a private practice in Carlsbad, CA (North County San Diego). I’m also a mom, artist, nature lover and health/wellness geek 🙂

Whitney: Let’s start off with the basics: what is EMDR?

Janelle: EMDR stands for Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing and is now the most proven form of trauma therapy that’s available. It works incredibly fast and can be used to treat a wide range of trauma – from incredibly severe to very mild.

Whitney: Can your quickly breakdown what an EMDR session looks like?

Janelle: First, I work with my clients to find the most effective memory to target (called a touchstone memory). After identifying this memory I will go through a list of questions with my client to help my client really get in touch with the memory. For example; I would ask them to identify what image represents the worst part of the incident. Also, what negative belief are they believing because of the incident, what feelings do they have around the incident, and have them rate the trauma. After all these questions (and more) are answered and the client is in touch with the incident then the actual processing can start.

The processing phase is where the client gets in touch with the memory and then with their eyes follows a lightbar tool I have in my office to allow the brain to ‘digest’ the trauma (go to my instagram @jncounseling to see an actual video of this). The bi-lateral movement from the eyes allows the brain to move and reprocess the memory using both hemispheres of the brain. I will pause and check in with the client throughout the process to see if there distress levels have shifted. When they get to the point where nothing about the incident bothers them (yes- this happens every time!) then we can move to the installation and body scan phases.

The installation and body scan phases is where they are able to pair the positive belief with the incident and they start to feel really good! At the end of the sessions my clients are usually tired, but incredibly light and relieved or they literally skip out of my office! Ha! I once had a teenage client ask me, “Do you feel like a magician? From like, Harry Potter or something?! That was crazy!”

Whitney: You’ve been using EMDR in your practice for over 7 years. Why is it such a powerful tool in the world of healthcare.

Janelle: Because it goes deep and works so so quickly! Trauma literally gets “stuck” in the brain and gets paired with a negative belief about ourselves. We might do a lot of talk therapy and in our minds know “I am good enough,” but in our hearts we don’t FEEL that way. EMDR helps make our head knowledge actual heart knowledge… and that’s what makes it so powerful.

Whitney: As an military spouse I knew about EMDR, but I only thought it was for Post traumatic stress trauma, who else could benefit from EMDR ?

Janelle: It can benefit literally anyone. I have never met a person who hasn’t experienced some form of trauma (shame or pain). I have worked with many of our Military who have PTSD and the results are incredible for them, but anyone can benefit. Some common things I see (unfortunately) is a lot of sexual abuse, bullying, and attachment trauma (ex: alcoholic/workaholic parent). Other things I have used it for are fear of flying, cancer or illness recovery, and death of a loved one. It has endless uses…

Whitney: I have used EMDR to tap into past childhood issues that are the stem of a lot of my adult anxiety. Are you seeing more patients like myself using EMDR to manage chronic anxiety.

Janelle: Most of my clients are just like you! Awesome, high functioning people who are wanting to self improve and work through whatever is blocking them in their present life.

Whitney: What are some myths you’ve heard when people talk about EMDR?

Janelle: That it’s some form of hypnosis- It’s definitely not! You are completely conscious the during the processing. Nothing scary I promise 🙂

Whitney: If a person is interested in trying a session where should they start? What should they look for when trying to find a practitioner like yourself.

J: Personal referrals are always the first best resource, but if you don’t have one I would do a search on Psychology Today.

Whitney: Where can our listens/ readers find you!

Website: jncounseling.com

Social: Instagram: @jncounseling / Facebook: Janelle Nelson Counseling

Emails: jntherapy@gmail.com

Exactly How To Get Beautiful Lashes Without Extensions

Exactly How To Get Beautiful Lash Without Extensions-  Positively Posie

Eyelashes just like eyebrows play a huge role on the face, so how do you get a fuller look without eyelashes extensions. The the trendy eyelash lift (aka lash perm) might be your best option for fuller lashes. A semi-permanent lift and curl of extensions that keeps your natural lashes damage-free. Keratin Lash Lifts are supposedly way safer and less invasive way than using eyelash extensions. You get darker and curlier lashes that last up to 8-12 weeks.


The Process

The way the lash lift starts is: you lie down and pads are placed on the lower lashes to keep them out of the way. Then a silicon pad is placed on the top lashes, it is used almost like a curling iron. The shape of the rod helps give that super curled looked and helps to protect your eyes. At high brow beauty they use a keratin pigment infusion and the lashes are brushed with the mixture and left to marinate for a little bit. The whole process didn’t hurt but my eyes are super sensitive so I was a little uncomfortable for me.

High Brow Beauty- Eyelash Lift
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The Results 

When we finished everything was peeled off and the results showed darker and lifted eyelashes. My immediate reaction was “eehhh I don’t see a big difference” I wasn’t blown away with the results. It’s not the same reaction I had after my first set of eyelash extensions: immediate selfie. Like I said I have sensitive eyes so the keratin formula definitely irritated my eyes and the surrounding skin. 

Is it Worth it?

 A typical lash lift is roughly $150 (depending on where you go) and it only last 8 weeks. If you have are looking for more fullness and length a eyelash lift isn’t for you, if you have straight lashes who are always needing to curl this is for you. Personally, the lash dried my lashes out gave them WAY to much curl. I am sticking with a good eyelash tint and eyelash serum to help give my dreamy full Kim K lashes. 

Lash Must Haves:

Why I Made Drinking Celery Juice a Priority

Over the last year celery juice has become the “cool kid” in the world of juicing. If you follow my Instagram you know I am drinking celery juice almost daily on an empty stomach, over ice and out of a straw cause it taste better that way.

Many of us have never payed much attention to celery. I mean who does love it with almond butter or in a bloodmary!! But about a year ago I fell head over heels in love with it celery juice and now I consider celery juice my beauti-fuel!

Celery has so many benefits especially when it’s juiced, if you are not a huge fan of only celery juice, at least drinking some sort of green juice everyday is still so positive for your body. But I want to give you the scoop on the power of drinking celery juice SOLO, so let’s get into the nitty gritty of why you should be a fan of celery juice.

Disclaimer * If you are wanting to juice and not sure about it first consult with your practitioner.

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HOW TO DRINK CELERY JUICE

Celery juice is most powerful when fresh and drank solo. If you are new to the juicing game and can’t stand the taste start out adding in a little lemon or ginger to help you get used to the taste. And then gradually ween that back out so you have only celery juice.

AMOUNT OF CELERY JUICE TO GET THE BENEFITS?
Starting out a great number to hit is 16 oz daily. Some people with chronic illness have been saying they drink up to 24-32 oz but I am not there quite yet.

HOW MUCH CELERY DO I NEED TO GET 16oz ? 
Okay this varies because it depends on the type of celery you have, and remember to always buy organic. I notice a large bunch yields 16 oz of juice. 

WHEN SHOUD YOU DRINK DRINK CELERY JUICE? 
I always drink it in the morning before I eat anything, but sometimes I wanna grab a juice while I’m out so I just wait 15-30 minutes before or after eating something.

LETS TALK PRE- JUICING

I personally don’t pre-juice but if you need to because of a super busy AM schedule make sure to seal it tight in a mason jar and drink within 24 hrs of juicing. I personally drink my celery juice immediately after juicing on an empty stomach, over ice and out of a straw cause it tastes way better like that!!

HCL

Celery juice helps to rebuild the hydrochloric acid in your stomach so it can properly break down protein. What is hydrochloric acid: HCL –is what we know as stomach acid which helps your gut break down the food, specifically proteins. But when you have an autoimmune disease like Hashimotos or have a chronic stress issue your HCL levels can drop super low. This creates symptoms like indigestion, acid reflux and can even create IBS. So if you are unable to properly digest your foods then you aren’t able to absorb the essential nutrients from food. But with celery juice contains cluster salt (mineral salts) which helps with digestion and helps to restore your stomach’s HCL levels.

King of Detox

Celery juice will DETOX  your body. Drinking celery juice will kill off unproductive bacteria in the gut, also detoxing the liver. Some people who’s body is super toxic can experience diarrhea, I haven’t had this problem but I do know people who have. SO it is smart to start drinking a smaller amount of juice like 2 to 8 oz of celery juice then work your way up to 16 oz. Check out the medical medium tips.

Diuretic

Celery juice is a diuretic and flushes the body of bloat. From my own experience celery juice definitely reduces my belly bloat, if I miss a few days of juice I notice an increase in gas and bloat. So I rarely miss a day of celery juice, but things happen like vacation so I have to just roll with it.

Reduces Cravings

Celery juice has been found to help reduced cravings. Often you’ll see cravings when our body is lacking certain minerals and vitamins. This happens due to a lack of variety in the diet or when we eat unhealthy foods all the time. Like I said celery juice helps repair your gut and rebuilding the HCL, once your gut is repaired more quality nutrients will be absorbed into your system and decrease those annoying food cravings.

img_3417If you don’t want to start with just celery juice or you don’t want to juice anything yourself, I believe that any green juice is better than no green juice.

I’ll leave you with my 3 Rules of Juice: 1. When buying juice make sure it’s a green vegetable juice with no more than 100 calories per serving. 2. Juices with little fruit content will mean the less sugar. 3. The farther down the ingredient on the list of ingredients, the less of the ingredient used in the juice!

Happy Juicing

xo- Whitney

4 Sleep Tips For Holiday Traveling with An Infant From Sleep Specialist Cara of Taking Cara Babies

4 Sleep Tips For Holiday Traveling with An Infant  From Sleep Specialist Cara of Taking Cara Babies

I know how busy things can get over a holiday weekend and the last thing we want is our kid’s sleep pattern to change. Sleep is crucial is our house ( ABC’s of Sleep with Cara of ” Taking Cara Babies ). So I asked Cara Dumaplin founder of Taking Cara Babies to give us her holiday SLEEP tips to keep baby’s sleep on track. 


4 Sleep Tips For Holiday Traveling with An Infant  From Sleep Specialist Cara of Taking Cara Babies

Recreate your baby’s bedroom wherever you spend your night

The holidays are a special time to make lasting memories with your family. Adding a sweet baby to the mix multiplies the JOY, but it can also multiply the stress. Here are a few simple tips to help you enjoy your baby-filled holiday while still protecting your sleep and sanity:

Whether you’re going out of town or staying for a late night at grandma’s house, try to replicate your baby’s normal bedtime surroundings as closely as possible. Don’t forget your sound machine, lovey, several pacifiers, sleep sack/swaddle, and even his own crib sheet for the Pack ‘n Play. If your baby is used to sleeping in a DockATot or Rock ‘n Play, make sure to take it with you!

Sometimes a dark room can be hard to find while you’re traveling, so we love this Snooze Shade or these travel black-out blinds so you can keep your baby from waking with that early morning light.

Keep the same bedtime routine even outside of your own house

A familiar bedtime routine tells your baby’s brain that sleep is coming, just like normal. If you typically give a mini massage, dress in jammies, feed her, and then read a book before placing her in the crib, continue to do that while you’re out of the house. If you need to shorten the routine, make sure to keep a few familiar elements. This predictable series of events remind her that it’s bedtime, even if her surroundings are slightly different. Consistency is so important!

Holiday Party Hack: If you’re not sleeping over, do your bedtime routine before placing your little one into the carseat. This can make the transfer to the crib much easier.

Try to protect one solid nap per day

During the holidays, it’s so tempting to fill the schedule with as many visits and activities as possible. You don’t want to miss out. However, an overtired baby can turn all of your coordinated fun and memories into a mess. For babies with more than one nap a day, attempt to get a solid morning nap in a Pack ’n Play or crib (instead of on-the-go). Send someone out for coffee or cinnamon rolls or snuggle by the fire while protecting that important rest for your baby. Starting the day rested can allow future naps to happen in the car seat, in grandma’s arms, or in the stroller while you sneak in that last bit of holiday shopping.

Remember: All that activity can be so exhausting for you and your little one! Watch sleepy cues for naps, and check out our blog post on Nap Schedules 5-25 months. If naps are short or happen on the go, bedtime may need to be earlier than usual.

Make memories

If you have been consistent at home with your baby’s sleep, now is the time to let go a bit. Relax and have fun; enjoy your family time. This is such a special time with your family and friends. Your baby can get back on track when you return home. If baby sleep is a mess before you add in the holidays, we can help with that too!

For more help with travel, hosting for the holidays, or baby sleep, visit their website. Taking Cara Babies exists to help you get baby sleeping so that your whole family can thrive.

5 Quick Ways To Get Bold Eyebrows

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Since I can remember I’ve always had super dark bold brows. Truth: I can’t say I always loved my bold brows, I mean I did have a high school stage ( like many of you) of trying to thin out my brows. I saw Lindsay’s work through Lauren of The Skinny Confidential and I decided to travel the 30 mins to see Browtique in Rancho Santa Fe, CA. She has over 15 years brow shaping experience, she is truly an artist with a wealth of brow knowledge.

 Lindsay Merrell at Browtique.


Tip: don’t over trim and use brow pencil only where necessary


5 Brow Tips Brow Guru Lindsay Merrell

  1. Find an eyebrow artist you like and get your eyebrows shaped at least ONCE in your life! They’ll go over your eyebrows with you, show you start, arch and end and your ideal shape. If you want to grow them out, let them know you’re ok with looking a bit shaggy to achieve fuller brows.
  2. Research your brow artist. It’s easy to do nowadays as many have social media accounts and share their work online. If you don’t know where to start ask a friend with great brows for a referral.
  3. If your brows are light or could use some pop, consider a TINT. Your eyebrows will look instantly fuller. The maintenance on brow tint is monthly. Staying away from things that strip your color will ensure longevity (ie. Chlorine in pools, glycolic cleansers, bleaching pads)
  4. If you over-tweezed in the past and are stuck with an unflattering shape, use a growth stimulant. Basically, the follicle no longer has its own food source and needs to be fed. There are a bunch out there at varying price points.
  5. When filling in your brows, wax based pencils adhere best to skin and powders adhere best to hair. A lot of times I’ll use both and blend with a spooly brush for a natural look. Add a matte cream highlighter under the brow for definition and end with brow gel to set and seal.
  6. Communicate with your brow artist! Tell her or show her what your brow goals are. It’s not pushy and annoying, it’s smart and effective. And everyone has different aesthetic tastes.

Great eyebrows don’t happen by chance guys, they happen because of eyebrow guru’s like Lindsay! Don’t miss out on all of the great brow products within the post, my fave right now is Rapid Brow to give me EVEN fuller brows.

xx- Whitney

Making Gluten Free & Dairy Free Eating Easy- Positively Posie Pantry Picks

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I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard, “how do you eat gluten free and dairy free, what do you eat? In 2018 I totally expected more people to be open to the gluten free & dairy free way of life, but people are still leery.  So I want to share with you my favorite gluten and dairy free items that we eat on a daily basis. These are the stand outs, the must have items. Even if you aren’t gluten & dairy free these are still must try items… trust me you won’t be sorry.

A few thought nuggets about Gluten Free and Dairy Free items:

  • Make sure to inspect the labels– if it states “made in a facility that also processes wheat” it’s not truly gluten free.
  • Not all  gluten-free foods items are healthy! Just because it’s gluten free or dairy free doesn’t mean the product is SUPER clean or LOW in calories

Sauces & Spreads

+ kite hill- jalapeno

+ Hope Food- original hummus & spicy green chili guacamole

+ Simple Mill- Vanilla Frosting

+ Primal Kitchen- Lemon Tumeric Dressing

+ So Delicious-  Unsweetened Vanilla Coconut Yogurt

+Bragg Apple Cider Vinegar 


Breads & Muffins & Cookies

+ Canyon Bakehouse Bread

+Udi’s Classic Hamburger Buns

+ Simple Mills Muffin Mix- Banana or Pumpkin 

+ Bob’s Red Mill Gluten Free Biscuit Mix

+ Immaculate Cookie Mix

+Enjoy Life Soft Bake Cookies

+ Nature’s Bakery Fig Bars


Best Gluten Free Pasta Options

+ Green Giant Veggie Spiral 

+ Spaghetti squash  (youtube tutorial )

+ Explore Asia Organic Black Bean Spaghetti

+Tinkyada Organic Gluten-Free Brown Rice Pasta


Random Pantry Must Haves

+ So Delicious- Unsweetened Vanilla Yogurt

+Aleia’s Bread Crumbs Gluten Free Italian and Original

Simple Mills Almond Flour Crackers

+ Ore Ida Potatoes (totes & sweet potatoes fries)

+ Enjoy Life Mini Chips

IMLAKESH Organic Cacao Wafers or Nibs

Organic Meats                               Organic Veggies

+ Turkey                                                        + Spinach & Kale  + Celery

+ Chicken                                                      + Asparagus   + Butternut Squash

+ Organic Wild Fish                                    +Cucumber          + Zucchini

3 Superfoods That Will Boost Your Skin

 3 Superfoods That Will Boost Your Skin _ Positively Posie

This isn’t the typical post telling you all about random superfoods out there, Positively Posie is a place filled with wellness tips to improve your daily life and adding superfoods is a great place to start. Did you know that your epidermis is the top part of your skin and its the body’s largest organ. Our skin is here to protects us, so the least we can do is nourish it with some superfoods.

Listen I’m an efficient lady when it comes to my body’s wellness and my skin of course. So adding in superfoods was a no brainer, it’s an easy way to detox and energize your body and skin. And I can’t commit to one superfood, it’s just not gonna happen. There are THREE superfoods that I’m obsessed with and they are so easy to throw in your AM shake or even in some water.


moon juice: beauty shroom

Adds a some creaminess to your morning shake with moon juice: beauty shrom. It’s full of skin-protecting superfoods to help preserve your natural collagen while hydrating skin from the inside out.

Raw Beauty- green superfood powder

HUM nutrition has 39 beauty detox superfoods to help improve your energy, support radiant, hydrated skin and boost your metabolism.

apple cider vinegar

Maybe you hate the taste & smell but my apple cider vinegar obsession runs deep. I love adding it to my shakes and or in my morning water with a bunch of lemon. Why is ACV so amazing well studies show that Apple Cider Vinegar 

• Reduces oxidative stress in your body

• Helps improve insulin resistance

• ACV promotes an alkaline gut environment

• Promotes a healthy cardiovascular health


Positively Posie Superfood Picks